Voice against Real Issues

I want to tell about a very unfortunate incident about my close friend relative who lives in another city. It is about a young girl who got the most difficult conditions in her life just for having good looks. It was just another ordinary day for her when she was going for her college to learn about beauty and make up. She had a dream to part of fashion shows and open up her own beauty parlour. It was a dream for her to be the best in the industry and take up fashion as her career. But then something happened which completely changed her life. She was in auto rickshaw and suddenly two people in bike came close to her and tried to harm her face by throwing acid right in her face. She was lucky that auto took the turn and she could save her life. But then some part of damage was already done and she got marks and burns on her face. It was injury on her face which took few months to recovery.

At one point everyone thought that her career in fashion was over and she would be not being able to achieve her dreams. It was perceptions that people thought it was time for her to change her career and think of getting married. Many friends also started ignoring her and she was left alone in her life with only family to support her. Her mother was behind her and she gave her advice to ignore all things and just keep on working hard and believe in God. People would laugh at her when she used to go to college but she had the fighting spirit and completed her course and got the college degree with scholarship. Now she runs a beauty cosmetic centre on her own and living life to the fullest without depending on anyone. She was able to break the stereotype of having a bad look and still manage to turn into a successful entrepreneur. I have heard from my friend that she has also formed an online group where she supports such a community and provide support to acid victims and give them proper counselling and support to start a new life and have a positive start. It is a great lesson to learn from her that we should be always being independent and face any kind of situation in life. We should never be discouraged and judge out people from their looks.

I want to point out here about startling figures that the Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable survey conducted by Nielsen India reveals:

a. 69% of men agree that their judgement of women is based on their looks.
b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.
c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.
d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.

“I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”

Time to say #IAmCapable

India is place of rich culture and traditions but more dominated by men as compared to women. We see that women clothes and her appearances are seen as a basic factor for judging the character of women. People hardly take a few seconds to make a comment on some wise lady just because she is wearing short skirt and western outfits. The society is not ready to accept us in western outfits and men usually look back and try to come closer if we walk on the streets. There is still a safety issue which is not being taken care of and more work has to be done. People here run behind the outside beauty and often ignore that looks can be deceptive at times. It is still found in rural areas and backward areas, family decides the fate of the girl and most of the judgement is made without listening to the girl or even asking to her about her future. People consider marriage at early age as priority for girls over giving them higher education. There are so many cases where family wants to keep the girl child in the house and restricting her movement due to insecurity.

I have experienced the same within my social circle where we had to convince my uncle and aunt to let her daughter to study and work before marriage and give her a chance to live her life with less limitations. Her daughter had so many limitations in terms of wearing traditional ethnic wear and had to take permission before dressing western outfits. Such traditional thinking should be changed and somebody has to act and bring awareness to change the mindset and attitude. We can all bring in the change by setting up an example and help those who are facing such issues from long time. Let us act by rising over voice and convincing people that dressing sense cannot be sole criteria in deciding fate of a girl.

Every parent should promise good education, good facilities and good living style for their children but it is a matter of great shame that we are not able to provide them when it come the issue of a girl child. I know it will take some time as people thinking will not happen overnight but I can see a hope for a better tomorrow and we all are waiting excitedly for that day to come. The key mantra for every girl is to keep on moving and stay focused believing in her abilities.

I want to point out her about startling figures that the Nihar Naturals #IAmCapable survey conducted by Nielsen India reveals:

a. 69% of men agree that their judgement of women is based on their looks.
b. 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.
c. 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.
d. 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.

We all should spread awareness about this alarming injustice against women as mentioned in this survey and take on preventive measures or steps for the future.

“I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my experience for the #IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.”